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September 2003
Q We have a family member who expects things to happen for her and they do. The irony is, she doesn't actively practise mind power, has never heard of it and scoffs at those who are, "positive thinkers". She doesn't work, is unable to support herself financially (although there is no physical limitation to her doing this), and yet she expects the best should come to her and it does (quite often at the expense of others). She has had her house paid for, her car paid for and her furniture has been given to her - all by family members. When she's struggling to pay her bills there's always someone there to bail her out - this has been the story of her life since she was 26 years old (she's now 65). She is not a generous person; in fact it would be fair to say she is selfish. She will always put her own wants and needs first, and yet things always come her way. So how does this work John? I would have thought that you reap what you sew (karmically speaking), but this isn't the case. This may sound like a case of sour grapes - it isn't, and we are certainly not hoping for her to 'reap what she has sewn.' It's just that being the firm believer in mind power that I am, I can't quite get my head around how this works given your writings on the way the universe works. We'd really appreciate your thoughts on this.
Hawkes Bay, New Zealand
A The answer to your question is clear. You said it yourself. "She expects the best to come to her and it does." Her expectation is a powerful belief. She is using mind power no matter what she chooses to call it.
I quoted Somerset Maugham last month, but it feels appropriate to do so again: "It's a funny thing about life, if you refuse to accept anything but the best you very often get it." Sound familiar?
And all the more power to her that she's been successful at it for 65 years. Too bad about her character. Think about how much fun she might have had if she'd been a nicer person.
Q I have fears. Can I delete these fears and make them not exist by positive thinking, by thinking that they don't exist?
New Zealand
A All of us have fears in life. Fear is a natural part of a life. There will always be things to be fearful about. And one should not fear "fear." If fear overpowers you, if you find yourself fearful every moment of every day, then obviously there is something wrong and you have to look at eliminating that. But the occasional fear over incidents that happen in our lives is quite normal and should be accepted and not too much attention given to them. If you check the past Web topic on eliminating negatives I think you will find this valuable in assisting yourself in dealing with fears. All the best.