Monthly Mind Power Questions & Answers

A No matter which way you use the techniques, you will be effective because you have the most important factor correct, namely daily practice. It is the daily part that is important. So doing the exercises in the morning or evening or once or twice a day is up to each individual. Do what feels right to you .

Congratulations on your daily practice. You are sure to see results.

A Your problem is not with your boyfriend but with yourself. It is time for some real soul searching to discover why you feel so insecure and inadequate. You mentioned this has happened in all your previous relationships, so this is a clue that it has nothing to do with your boyfriend, and everything to do with yourself. Any time we see re-occurring patterns in our life we can safely assume there are subconscious beliefs that are causing this. Here's what I suggest.

Think of your boyfriend as your teacher/helper to assist you in overcoming this negative habit. The next time you find yourself ready to explode, don't. Affirm to yourself that whatever incident has caused you to be upset is a mirror for you to look within. Welcome it. It is a door through which you must pass in order to reveal the new you.

Reread the chapter on Self Image in Mind Power into the 21st Century and begin practicing the suggested methods. You can start by acknowledging yourself for your good points, thereby building up a healthy self-image. As your self-esteem improves, and it will with attention, you will find outside events less threatening. The incredible power of your mind allows you to create yourself as whomever you choose. Keep a mental picture of yourself, of who you want to become, and keep feeding this image. It won't happen overnight but, with persistence and diligence, it will happen. Do it. The success of your relationships depends upon it.

A There are many good books and courses available to teach you meditation. Rather than my suggesting one, I suggest you explore which ones seem most suitable for you. Everyone is different.

You are right; during meditation the mind gets very distracted and busy with thoughts coming and going all the time. One of the side effects of practicing mind power is that it disciplines the mind to think only the thoughts we choose, and in so doing gives us some control over the bombardment of thoughts.

Another simple technique is simply to count your breaths, gently sweeping away thoughts as they come to you. Count one to ten and then start over at one again. Doing this for five minutes daily is a helpful meditation. Again, remember that the best results come with regular practice.

A Affirmations are deceptively simple and powerful. The message in your affirmations naturally sinks in through the process of repetition. Repetition is the key. Sometimes when you say them, your mind will wander; other times you will be listening to them. Either way, it doesn't really matter because if you're doing them every day for a few moments, they will have an effect eventually. Don't concern yourself with an immediate effect. Be diligent in doing them daily. Once again daily repetition over a period of time is the key.

Regarding Emile Cou, the affirmation I believe you're referring to is, "Every day in every way, I'm getting better and better." To do this affirmation, simply repeat it for several minutes each day. It will naturally assist your health and well being.

A Two things to consider:

1.It's good to establish "aggressive" goals for yourself but don't forget intermediate and short-term goals. Break you larger goals into smaller objectives and acknowledge yourself when you achieve them.

2. Make sure you don't overextend yourself with two many Mind Power goals. Spirituality, wisdom, health, wealth and success. Is there anything you've left out? If you try to do too many things at once, too often none of them happen. I would consider choosing two or three goals that are most important to you and using your Mind Power to achieve these.

Also you can stay focused and motivated by daily charting yourself with your Mind Power exercises. As long as you're doing your exercises daily you will stay motivated.

A Thank you for your e-mail. It will inspire all our readers, and just imagine what great destinies lie ahead for one so young who has accomplished so much.

A I have no idea what could have gone wrong. But let me give you two perspectives. Firstly, Mind Power is not a magic wand that allows you to achieve every goal every time in the exact ways that you image. A star salesperson does not make every sale. Sometimes he fails. The best baseball player in the world does not hit a home run every time at bat. Sometimes he strikes out. A successful entrepreneur does not do everything right. Sometimes things don't work for her.

Nothing is one hundred percent. Mind Power means you win more than you lose, but it doesn't mean you win EVERY time, or that EVERY deal goes your way.

Secondly: In my book The Practice of Happiness, I have a chapter called Good luck, Bad Luck. The premise and teaching of this chapter is that often experiences that seem to be unfortunate or bad luck turn out to be favourable for us in the long run. Who knows? Perhaps not getting this deal is actually the best thing that could have happened to you? Only time will tell. Hope this helps.

A Help comes from many sources and often in the most unusual ways. I am pleased Mind Power Into the 21st Century has made its way into your possession. Once you have finished the book you will possess the keys to unlocking a whole new life for yourself. However, you must practice the techniques, as this month's topic of the month explains.

Our self-image is created through the countless thoughts we think about ourselves. If we have had traumatic experiences, such as you suggested ("a messy childhood"), it's easy to fall into a pattern of putting ourselves down and blaming ourselves for everything unfortunate that has happened to us. It becomes a habit, feeding upon itself, and we forever remain within its power. Luckily this can be reversed, and fairly quickly too. A regular program of acknowledging and building a new self-image with supportive daily affirmations will do wonders. You will be surprised at what a month or two of regular practice will produce within you.

At forty-six you have an exciting second half of your life ahead of you to do or become whatever you choose. Study and practice all the techniques in the book and you're going to soar.