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Q John, I have never read any of your books, however I have read many books that are very similar to yours. About 2 years ago I was on a downward spiral. I had become exceedingly isolated and depressed. I didn't know what to do. So I went on a search. I KNEW that I needed to overcome this depression. I proceeded to order as many books as I could on the mind. These were various books on the mind and hypnosis. I read them many times each and everything began to make sense. I was attracting failure to myself by my thoughts. I had to change this.
I began practicing the techniques I had learned from these books. Everything went great. A lawsuit that had gone unsettled for years suddenly became resolved, and an amount of money had come to me just as I imagined. I had a fear of social situations and this too had begun to fade. Everything went great, and then I stopped practicing for a while, until about a month ago.
During the times I was not visualizing or affirming I almost returned to my previous state of negative thought. On New Year's Eve I decided I had to change this again, and this time I would NEVER stop practicing the techniques. So far things are going great, and I am working on a goal of getting a date with this girl I like. However, I am still trying to overcome some nervousness. How can I do this? I have recently overcome my shyness completely. Well almost completely; I am 95% cured in my eyes.
My question is what should I visualize? Should I see both of us having fun on a date, or should I concentrate on the actual conversation and my question to her? For example, visualize my asking and her saying yes, making the picture as vivid and life-like as possible?
Another question I have is does it matter, when I am doing my visualizing, where it is I am imagining? For example, if I imagine asking her in a certain place will my subconscious take it at my word and try to make me ask in that certain place, or will it just lead me anywhere that is appropriate?
The mind is really so incredible. Once you realize the truth, that you can achieve whatever you want, it is an awe-inspiring experience. The subconscious provides us with the opportunity through "synchronity" as you call, but in the end it is up to us to capitalize on these opportunities.
USA
A You have raised several questions here so let me answer them one by one. First of all, although you have read many books on Mind Powers and all of them have certain similarities, this Web site is designed specifically for those students who at a very minimum have read and studied Mind Power Into the 21st Century. And this is a starting point for working with Mind Powers. So if you have not yet read it, as it appears you have not, I would strongly suggest that you get this book so that you can begin practicing the techniques within.
Secondly, you have raised a very interesting point about all the success you have received when you work with Mind Powers. When you let it go, however, what happens is that you naturally revert to the previous state of negative thought. And this is something that all Mind Power students discover for themselves; it is a very common error in Mind Powers, in fact I like to call it coasting. And what happens with coasting is that you do the exercises, it works so well for you, things are going so great, that you coast on the momentum. And when you coast on the momentum, what happens is that it continues to work for you for a while, but after a period of time it stops working for you. And this is one of the things that I advise my students over and over again-you want to have a little bit of Mind Power each day. It doesn't have to be a half hour, sometimes it can be as little as two or three minutes a day, but always something everyday that you're working to create and manifest, working with your thoughts.
The third question regarding the date that you want with this specific woman. I would suggest that you imagine it in a very general way. Imagine yourself getting along well with her, having a rapport, being comfortable in each other's company, and if you do this then what will happen is that naturally, when the time is appropriate, you will ask her out on the date. This rather than specifically trying to imagine where and when you're going to ask her. Let it be rather general and just concentrate on imagining that you and her get along fabulously, that the energy is good, the vibration is good, the chemistry is good, and when all these things are good the question will naturally happen for you.
All the best and congratulations for discovering this site. Keep up the good work.
Q I don't seem to get images when I visualize, I just sort of think about it. Am I doing it wrong?
A Very few people see crystal-clear images when they first begin to visualize. Mostly it is exactly as you say, you just sort of think about it. What you'll find is that the more you practice visualization, the more you will strengthen your imagination, and the more you will develop the faculty of actually seeing the images of the things you desire to have happen to you. But when you begin to visualize, this faculty is quite weak, and it's quite fine to just think about it. The most important thing is the feeling that you bring with it - the feeling that you already have achieved the thing you want. And when you work with this feeling, and just sort of think about it and dwell upon it and linger on it, that in itself will be sufficient to gain results. Certainly don't get concerned or discouraged because you can't see crystal-clear pictures in the beginning. The more you practice, the more adept you will become at using your imagination.
Q Are there any guarantees to following this program on a consistent basis?
Cape Town, South Africa
A I have personally trained over 100,000 people in this system over the last 20 years. I have never once met anyone who didn't get something from it. Sometimes the benefit may be small, but there's always change and improvement. And most people get excellent results. Obviously there are many factors determining how much success you will achieve. Your dedication to doing the exercises, your internal beliefs, how well you understand the system, your attitudes, your persistence, etc. But you most definitely will see results. Often the hardest part is starting. Get started and watch what happens.
Q Everything you say is so exciting and I believe so much in the power of the mind and have had many wonderful results through using it. Is it necessary to have to spend 90 days to get results? Can I not just hold the belief strongly and trust and see the result. As you said, "Once the seed is planted, you do not keep digging it up."
Republic of Ireland
A You're right. Once the seed is planted you do not keep digging it up to see if it's growing, but neither do you stop nurturing it. Holding a belief strongly and trusting is a technique in itself, and is certainly helping to manifest the results you require. Whether you follow the techniques exactly as suggested in the Mind Power Into the 21st Century book, or you improvise, using your own style doesn't much matter. The premise is clear: what you focus on and keep in your mind, you attract.
Congratulations on having seen "many wonderful results" using Mind Power. These previous successes add to your confidence as you create new realities.
Q It seems to me that there are two true, contradicting philosophies in life. One is believe in something and you will receive it,' the other is life doesn't owe you a thing.' I have seen in my own life and in others that when we focus only on what we want, we became sad, self-centred people. Like you said in your book The Practice of Happiness, it is important to focus on others and be thankful for what we have. No matter what religion or program we follow, our wish is not God's command. Don't you feel that mind power can make people too self-centred, thus less happy? And when do you know in your own life when to switch from the believe and receive' attitude towards the life doesn't owe us a thing' attitude? This is something I'm really struggling with.
Stellenbosch, South Africa
A Life itself is contradictory, and filled with enough philosophies and theories to confuse (or satisfy) just about anyone. Whatever you believe you will project, and thus you'll encounter evidence to support your personal theory. So it's complicated, because we all have our own little piece of the truth. But is there not an absolute truth out there somewhere, you might ask. Perhaps there is. But what truth are you willing to base your life upon?
Here is the clear answer - you choose.
Life is the ultimate experience and adventure. What makes you feel happy, excited, full of life? Trust these things.
Mind power is a tool to assist you in achieving your objectives. If it is making you unhappy, stop using it. If you feel you're becoming too self-centred, then shift out of it. Experiment with different beliefs until you find ones that feel comfortable and work for you.
My apologies if I haven't answered your question directly, but the truth is only you can answer it.
Q What is the best method to achieve a goal in a romantic relationship with a 5-year history? I love a person; he loves me, but still we are not together. What can I do? I believe in mind power. I am sure it works. But what would be particularly effective in my case?
Moscow, Russia
A Why are you not together if you both love each other? Is one or both of you married to other partners? Without knowing the details, it is hard to imagine why you shouldn't be together.
Achieving a successful relationship is one of the common goals people work towards using mind powers, and thousands are successful in this process. However, since a relationship takes into account two different people, it cannot be achieved simply by the desire of one person if the other isn't available, ready or willing. Too often we try to force ourselves onto others.
Go to your subconscious and ask if this person is indeed the right person for you. What exactly are the obstacles? Once you clear your mind, mind power will work to assist manifesting for you the ideal partner, who may or may not be this individual. All the best.
Q I have a mind power success story for you. This one I think really highlights the importance that detachment plays when using mind power. My husband and I had our house up for sale for just about a year and still hadn't sold it. There was a gentleman who was interested in it, but he was unable to buy it until he sold his house, which he was having problems doing also. We wanted to have a house built, but of course couldn't until we sold our current home.
So I had been practicing mind power for months trying to help this process along, without much luck. Finally we found out that we only had three more weeks to decide whether or not to firm up on our contract on the lot we wanted to build on, before a price hike. After that we would no longer be able to afford the home. My husband was very negative throughout this whole process, but I just focused on what I wanted and tried to ignore
the rest. I even refused to listen to his concerns and worries about it because I didn't want to be negative.
However, eventually, due to the bleak situation, I just came to the realization that we might not move. So I thought about this and came to peace with it, and started thinking about how blessed we were to even have the home we have now. So I finally became much more relaxed about the whole situation and knew that no matter what, life would be good. I continued my mind power program and in as little as two weeks, with one week to spare, our prospect sold his house and bought ours. Plus it gets even better, he agreed to rent us our house back until our new home was built, so we didn't have to do a double move. I was so excited about the house, but I think I was even more excited that the mind power program worked. I truly believe that without detachment, you are coming from a place of fear of not getting what you want, and fear will always keep what you desire just out of reach.
Good Luck to you all, and thank you John for introducing me to such an amazing concept!!
St. Louis, MO
USA
A Here's another success story that is relevant. You raise an excellent point about detachment. Do your mind power exercises and then let go. Don't come from a point of desperation or fear. This will influence the results. Relax, let go, do the work, and expect results. Thanks for sharing your results.