Q: I am an emotional person, but for some reason I do not let others into my world. My emotions are repressed - I think it has to do with not making myself feel vulnerable and protecting myself from disappointment or rejection. However, the way I am handling matters at present causes more harm than good. I have just resolved, or dissolved, a toxic relationship and feel so much better for the closure. What I want to do now is communicate more effectively, say what I mean, ask for what I want, and if I don't get
what I want, handle it more effectively. I don't blame anyone except myself for my past events, but am fully conscious of the need to change the way in which I deal with my emotions. I tend to get reckless rather than focused. What are your thoughts/recommendations?
New Zealand
A: It sounds like you're very clear on what you want, and that is a huge step. You have obviously looked within and discovered changes that need to be made. I salute you for your discoveries and determination.
I like that you say, "I don't blame anyone except myself for my past events." That's also a huge step. Most of us will go to great lengths to blame everything and everyone but ourselves. You're always on solid ground by starting with yourself, taking responsibility and then making changes to create a new life. My suggestion to you is very simple. Re-read Mind Power Into the 21st Century and begin applying the techniques to re-create yourself as the person you intend to be. Set up a daily Mind Power program (there is an excellent tape available to help you) and persist.
I feel the sincerity and determination in your letter. Having made these important steps in self-discovery, all that remains is for you to re-create a new, more open and emotional life. This will come through practice. Our outer life is a reflection of our inner. Change the inner and the outer naturally follows.
A good affirmation is, "It's okay to be vulnerable." And it is okay. It takes courage to be vulnerable, open and free with our emotions, but the rewards are immense.
Have fun in this new realm.
Q: I wanted to know your views on Yoga and how, if at all, it can help a person's mind and body. I think this is a very interesting area involving the mind and body and attempting to create some sort of balance. What do you think of this? And the second part of my question is what is the difference between meditation and mind power techniques?
Birmingham, England
A: Yoga can be a very complementary practice to Mind Power. Whatever helps the body helps the mind, and whatever helps the mind helps the body.
Yoga has benefited millions of people, and if you feel attracted to it, by all means follow the discipline.
Regarding the difference between meditation and Mind Power techniques: Meditation is a method of slowing the thoughts in one's mind to increase our awareness and concentration. You might say that meditation is a Mind Power technique. However, Mind Power uses many techniques, not just meditation, and many of these techniques involve directing thoughts towards a particular purpose or goal.
Again, meditation, in any form, can be a wonderful and beneficial complement to your regular Mind Power exercises.